Love and sex are not the same things, though both contribute to our sexual identity. Only we can determine our own sexuality, but many terms fly around that may be confusing. “Sexual compatibility” is one such phrase used in many different contexts, but what does it mean for you?
What Is Sexual Compatibility?
Getting physical in the early stages of love can come with trials and tribulations, many of which are totally normal. But how do you know if you’re sexually compatible? And what do you do if the warning bells are going off, and you think you might not be? If you find yourself nervous about the situation, regardless of which way the balance scale dips, there are ways to maintain your relationship and grow from the experience. “I encourage couples to bring the focus back to their erotic wellness,” says relationship and sexuality expert Sari Cooper.
Sari Cooper, LCSW, CST, is a certified sex therapist and coach. She is the director of the Center for Love and Sex and founder of Sex Esteem, an empowerment coaching program to enhance adults’ sexual confidence.
Signs You Are Sexually Compatible
If you and your partner are sexually compatible you will share the same or similar erotic turn-ons and -offs and like to engage in the same sexual activities, explains Cooper. This can also encompass sharing a similar temperament, tolerance, or desire to engage in new sexual experiences or, in contrast, having a common outlook on sticking to a “more familiar range of behaviors.” In short, if you find that you and your partner are usually on the same page sexually-having common fantasies, enjoying similar sexual acts, have aligned expectations of frequency and duration, hold similar inclinations to try (or not try) new things-you can probably rest assured you’re sexually compatible. Continue Reading…